An emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship can be a very difficult type of relationship to leave. The abuse leaves you feeling inferior, unlovable, unsure if you can make it on your own, and fearful of the unknown. It is important to take steps to prevent or reduce the likelihood of returning to the abuser. Along with addressing your physical recovery and optimizing your wellness and healthy lifestyle, there are additional steps to take to mentally and emotionally support the recovery process:
1. Have the support of others around you. Find a counselor who specializes in domestic violence and abuse issues to help you maintain perspective throughout your recovery process. In addition, spend as much time as you can with trusted friends and family. Right now, what you need are the correct messages about yourself, and these will come from your loved ones. You are counterprogramming the negative, controlling and abusive statements your emotional abuser spent his or her time convincing you were true.
2. Practice acts of random kindness -- to yourself. Make a list of small but enjoyable activities or treats. Each day, make it a point to do one of those things on your list. When you have exhausted the list, create a new one.
3. Limit your contact with your abuser whenever possible. No contact is best. If you must maintain some contact because of children, refuse to discuss the relationship or engage on a personal level other than what is necessary to schedule and manage the kids. Ignore text messages, emails, or phone calls that are not about the children. You are not required to respond to anything personal. Think of your abuser like a drug. He or she is very harmful, but the patterns that you have developed with this person can be as compelling as an addiction. Pay attention to your feelings after an interaction with your abuser. If you feel hopeless, inferior, demoralized, or anxious, you engaged too much with him or her.
Are you interested in addressing your life challenges from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, and relationship components?
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Shannon Cook is a personal growth and relationship expert who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and holistic personal growth, including physical, emotional and relationship health.
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