Emotional Abuse and Trauma - 2 Strategies to Ease Trauma - Part 2

If you are a victim of emotional abuse in your relationship, your scars may be invisible, but they are no less real. The low self esteem, self doubt, and confusion that results from exposure to an emotionally abusive partner can lead to long term difficulties and issues such as diminished self worth, depression, withdrawal, substance abuse issues, and other signs of chronic trauma and stress. If you feel that your partner is becoming violent or has the potential to be so, listen to your instincts and work with an abuse issues counselor or domestic violence shelter to help you stay safe. In emotionally abusive relationships, it is important to acknowledge that a traumatic event has taken place after an incident of verbal or emotional abuse. Here are the last 2 of 4 strategies to ease the trauma of the abusive incident:

1.      Talk about your experience. Join an online emotional abuse support group, share with your trusted and supportive friends and family, and speak to a counselor experienced in abuse issues. The more you can bring what is going on into the light of day and expose it, the more the reality of what is occurring can be cemented into your mind and you can be supported and encouraged to take action.

2.      Give yourself a break from interactions with your emotional abuser. Severing contact is of enormous benefit as you attempt to heal from your encounter(s).   The less contact you have with the source of your confusion and pain, the better. Think of it like a dam holding back water. You won't be able to do that until the water level is down and you can repair the holes.

3.      Do kind things for yourself each day. Make a list of small activities or indulgences you enjoy. Prioritize yourself and send yourself the message that you are worthy by doing at least one of these things on your list each day.

By the way, what is holding you back from making the best choices to achieve the life you deserve?

For a free copy of my ebook, "Strategies For Escaping Emotional Abuse", click here: http://www.stoptoxicrelationships.com/gifts-strategiesforescapingemotionalabuse.html

Shannon Cook is a personal coach and resource guide who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and "difficult" divorces, including the physical, emotional, practical and relationship components.